A friend of mine is getting married this spring and is making some wise moves. He and his fiancé are getting together with several married couples, asking them how they maintain a healthy relationship. In order to gain a realistic perspective from marriage’s different stages, they’re talking with folks who have been together for 20 years, of course, but also with some who have only been married for a few years. They asked Katie and I out for coffee not too long ago, of which we were honored to accept.
“Alright, give it to us. What’s your best piece of marriage advice?” they asked.
“Grace over guilt,” I answered.
I went on to tell him that Katie and I don’t get into fights. We never have, and largely, it’s because we don’t remind one another of the past. There is no record-keeping of wrongdoings at our house. We don’t see the point in that, really.
I learned this “grace over guilt” tactic from Jesus.
Especially when it comes to the things of our past, the Jesus I know offers
Shouldn’t that also be how we approach our relationships with others, then?
If I can ask one thing of you today:
choose grace over guilt.
See what happens.
*Photo by Les Heines, Creative Commons